Update and poorly baby

 

Update on Ariyah health.

Many of you know the struggle of the babies screaming for hours and not settling. Seeing them in pain and not being able to do anything is awful feeling. But you are not alone!!

Ariyah-mai has had many problems from birth as I have spoken about in my post. With her reflux and colic. We were not taken seriously as parents at first and had to push for the right care. Taking measures into our own hands. Ariyah is doing so well now. Her reflux is minimal. She hardly sick but still does have the odd bad day. We are still using gripe water however she is no longer on reflux meds or infocol. She is on her precription milk but are going to slowly start reintroducing apmil formula again once a day.

What we did do was use size 2 teats very early on which help with the colic aand trapped gas. Thus her being able to burb better and keep her milk down. We also made sure we keep her upright whilst feeding and afterward. Then we have got a wedge we use to prope her up in the pram and her bed. This helped alot until recently we had to removed it from the moses basket because she is starting to lay on her side (she does this herself). She has also decided to start turning herself across the moses basket and putting her feet up on the side lol photo below. She does it on her play mat too. Apparently this is comfortable.

Her stomach has been so much better as well  but she still suffer with constipation so we give her some water with a tiny pinch of brown suger. Another thing we did which I know is not advised anymore but we started weaning her on baby Rice after 3 months. Only 1-3 Spoons around 11am mixing it with her precription milk. We do not give her more then 5 spoons and will do this every other day. We noticed on the days she didn't have it while we were away, she was sick again, and got constipated. So we know that it is benfiting her. She is also a very hungery baby but having too much milk in one go makes her reflux worse. Therefore we found the rice settled her stomach for the day and fills her up a bit more.

Ariyah-mai is now sleeping mostly through the night. Her being premmy and still only 11/12lb at 12 weeks, we knew that it may not happen straight away. But she started sleeping for 6hrs around 8pm then waking for milk at 2 and going back to sleep until the morning around 7. Now she has done a few nights where she take around 7oz at 8-9 pm and go 4 or 5pm.

However despite her reflux settling, she still has this cold. She has always been snuffly. Our gp said some babies especially premmies just can be its called snuffle baby. We were doing everything. Using nasal saline drops, had a suckshon bulb, got oil in a humidifier. Then at 3 months we started using snuffly bath vaper and vaper that we put on her bibs. We have a calpol plug but bless her she just is gets very bundled up and now is snotty so hopefully it's on its way out. Gp said it should just settles itself after a few months, but we are doing all we can.

We have been having issues with our house which does not help Ariyah-mai's cold and my asthma. So due to a leak in the gutting and the roof in our block,u plus the window losing there seal there has been damp and water damage that is going throught the external walls.  Coming though as mould in both bedrooms. At first we just cleaned it but despite how much we cleaned and even repainted it came back worse. When we moved the furniture around and sorted the house out before Xmas and my surgery we realised it was all behind the built in wardrobes, ruining photo frames that were hung on the wall. It also spread to Ariyah-mai's room. All behind the wardrobes again affecting things that were in there. We had to move everything and clean it all. The landlord took all the wardrobes out and cleaned but until the housing association fixs outside it will keep coming back. The landlord is sorting it but it's going through siciltors and Court. We have now had to move everything and sleep in the living room. Which is difficult with us and the baby. There is no room and we are now have no choice but to move earlier then planned.

But apart from that I am finally starting to recover as I also been having problems with post surgery. I got two infections and was on antibiotics for two weeks. I got quiet ill due to thee infection. Then my stitches were not dissolving. I have to wait for two more weeks then if they have not dissolved thee go will remove them. Because otherwise I am not healing probably. It also been very hard to not be able to pick up or hold my daughter. For the first 6 weeks all I could do was Ben placing her on my lap when she was asleep. But as soon as she stirred he had to take her. This is because she hit my chest accidentally. I then started to be able to feed her but again he has to take her to burb and settle her. To have her cry and not be able to comfort her was the worse feeling. I had to call Ben. My step mum and dad helped alot which has been good and some friends who come to help Ben with the house where he is doing everything. I am starting to be able to hold her more and help abit around the house but it's going to be a along time before I am fully recovered. (I couldn't even push the pram for weeks)

• Ariyah-mai is doing so well tho and grow up fast. She is so strong and holding her head up. She just wants to stand all the time. She is starting to roll with alittle help, but more interested in pushing herself forward. She just wants to go and move. She loves music and wiggles around to it. She is going to be a dancer like her daddy (me). She starting to reach and grasp toys, bring things to her face and month. We got her a jumperoo which she enjoys in very short burst at the moment where she still very small, but because she just wants to stand and be upright playing. She just so clever and happy smiling all the time and almost laughing. Has the facial expressions but not noise yet. Could not be prouder and more in love. We had many adventures the last few weeks, celebrating my birthday, meeting new people, going to lgbt baby group and getting to play in the sensory room and ball put which she loved. Then going to soft play for her cousins birthday and the park for the first time. We have some more journeys planned so will do a post about traveling in the next few weeks after our next trip away.

 my birthday 

(Written in February 2020)