Sunday, August 16, 2020

24 weeks!! finally

 

We are 24 weeks!

Finally we have made it to 24 weeks. I almost can not believe we have and our little one is doing amazing. It seems so unreal and it seems fast but also slow at the same time. I feel it has taken us a while to get to this point because of how anxious we have been. Plus as we took an early test we  know we were excepting our rainbow at 3/4 weeks pregnant, before most people find out they are pregnant. thus making it seem longer. 

Whatever the reason and after all we have been though stressing and worrying we would loss another baby. Getting past 16 weeks then having the cervical stitch put in, Ben being signed off work and put on strict bed rest. We are able to relax more and now bond and plan for our rainbow.

We are now able to let more people know, like the rest of my family, some other friends and work colleagues. Most people close to us all now know we are expecting. Everyone is so happy for us and it is so amazing to share and talk about our rainbow baby.

Meaning I can finally make these posts public. So we can share out journey with others. Help support others and just hightligh high risk pregnancies after a lose. To break the stigma of miscarriage as well as LGBT+ families. To show that men can carry babies and that no matter what a family structure looks like as long as there is love that's all that matters!! 

I am off work for the summer too, with the odd few days working, meaning I can be home more with Ben and he is not so alone or bored. We have been sorting the house out and I have been spring cleaning, mainly because I find it hard to relax and stop when I have been working so much. The housework has been neglected a bit therefore, I am able to get around to cleaning. 

While it been good I have also had real trouble shutting off. My OCD is driving me mad. I have literally cleaned everything. Inside and outside of windows, washed everything. Bleach and scrubbed walls, doors, skirting boards. Rearranged our entire house. I have not been sleeping because I want to get up and clean or sort though things. It is so hard with everything I need to do, going round my head. But it does mean that the house is definitely clean and ready for the baby. 

I have cleaned and sorted the rest of the house first to also prevent myself from sorting the babies room and clothes out to early. Today I did start sorting and washing some second hand clothes from our friend and family. However I will try stop myself doing any baby bits until the end of the holidays when we are 28 weeks. I know it is early for most people however once I go back to work in September we really won't have long left and the last weeks will fly by. Plus as Ben can not do anything, due to bed rest. It only leave now while I am off work to sort and clean everything. Then towards the end when Ben can hopefully do abit more we can wash last bits and iron them. 

Ben is now feeling kicks much stronger and more frequently. I also got to feel the baby kick slightly. It was just like a small push against my hand. This was a magical moment, I had never felt a baby move before and so glad to first experience this with our child. I had tears in my eyes. She also giving the cats a good kick when they lay by Ben's bump, which is highly amusing when the cats cannot work out what has kicked them. 

Today we saw the midwive, Mel. Just as a check in, really. She listened to baby and you could really hear them moving around alot. She also got us a resurance scan, so we were able to see our baby again this was so amazing and a peace of mind especially for Ben. Baby is all good, growing well and weighing 1lb 10 oz which is perfect for 24 weeks. Now we have seen and heard our baby and are 24 weeks it is time to relax well at least alittle. 

Only if I can, with this ocd and no sleep. Our next appointment and scan is on the 29th August which is the day Nico was born. He would be one but what a way to spend it to have a scan of our rainbow. We know he be there with us and then we will do a balloon release and candle light for him that evening. 

Here are some photos of Ben's growing Bump, and our scan from today.

                           24 week scan 




(Written at 24 weeks) 

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