Rainbows arrival

 

Welcome to the world.

We are so please to announce our beautiful rainbow Ariyah-mai iris.

born at 16:38 on the 16th October and she is perfect. Weighing 5lb 3oz

In my previous post you can read about the lead up to her birth, how Ben was having contractions on and off since Sunday. Then Wednesday morning his waters broke at 6am. After bloods came back, the specialist came to see him, to go though what would happen. She said that Ben's white blood cell where high and that something had been building up since September. That the reason he had contractions was that the womb was being irritated which then caused the waters to go. She explained that even though baby is only 35 weeks the risk of infection is greater then her premuturity so we would definitely have a emergency c section that afternoon.

We had to wait til after half 3 because Ben had eaten that morning he has to go over 6 hours with no food. So more waiting and worrying. She did not really explain this concern about an infection, in terms of what it could be or the risks that were involved. Considering we lost Nico because of an infection and premature rupture of the membrane.

More so because today one year ago was Nico's funeral. It was the day we cremated and said bye to our son. So being an emotional day already to then have the anxieties, but excitement that our rainbow would be born today. As hard as it is being Nico's funeral it is also really lovely. Like he was here with us on this special day, that he sent this precious rainbow to us to be born today, giving us love and hope. Along with having a little bit of his spirt within her.

So we had a shower and tried to relaxed, waiting for the time to come. It was so lovely because we had the midwive who was the one that delived Nico. She will now be there in theatre delivering our rainbow. That was an added special thing to have. There was also lots of other staff on shift who had been there from the beginning with Nico, therefore became part of our journey. It was lovely for them to be there and met her.

At half 3 we were taken down to theatre. Ben had the spinal block anaesthetic which numbed everything but meant he was awake to met our baby. It did not take long and she was here in the world. Came out screaming, with lots of hair. She was perfect, no breathing problems looked great. I cut the cord and but her nappy on. After weighing her, she was then given straight to Ben for skin to skin cuddles.

The momemt she was given to Ben she stopped screaming, she definatly knew who her daddy was. We then went to recovery where I gave her the first feed. She is just such a calm happy baby. It has been 12 hours now and she doing great, feeding, temperatures and breathing are both great. Has a good amount of dirty nappies. So all is well. Ben's doing great and I could not be prouder of him.

So we will now be enjoying the first few hours, days and weeks with this new member of our family. I will still do updates just not as regular. I will do one in terms of how the hospital treated us with being trans, as well as what are the next steps for my surgery Ben going back on hormones ect... But will keep you all post.

Ariyah-mai 5lb 3oz 

(Written October 16 2019)