I'm not ready for this.
So this month has all gone up in the air, we were getting their with her routine, sleep, vomiting and allergy however now that all just well down hill. It is very frustrating.
So after changing milk she starting settling finally, still waking at 5am and some nights but quickly settled and was napping. She was now drinking all her milk because of having thickener. She was no longer vomiting, It was all going well.
Until suddenly she starting getting really unsettled, she was gagging and choking again. Could not handle soilds. We had to re blend stuff. She was arching her back and not sleeping straight away after milk. It took about an hour to settle her to sleep. This was hard because she bigger and stronger now so when she arching, wiggling and grabbing because she was so uncomfortable it is hard to hold her for so long. You could hear the milk in her tummy and gurgling in the throat, this was acid building up. We knew straight away her reflux was back. Yes she was not vomiting but had all her old symptoms of silent reflux. Like getting snotty and coughing too.
Therefore clearly the vomiting was due to her milk allergy while these other symptoms was from reflux. After calling the health visitor and the gp we got her back on medication. She is booked in to be weight next this week to get a proper dose and possible try a stronger different medication.
It has only been a a few days since meds so she is still abit unsettled. But hopefully with time plus a stronger dose, she will get there. I think she going to have to stay on medication because everytime we take her off it all comes back within weeks.
She is now eating better, having more soilds and bigger meals which is great, she is not coughing or gagging. She dropped her milk down which is only normal as she eating more and getting older. But still not sleeping to well.
Part of her sleep may have been due to her cot size on top of the reflux. This is where she is growing so much well how tall she is at least. As she sleeps sideways this means she bangs her head on the bars or gets her arms or legs caught. The cot she has is a small second hand one, it's 60cm by 120cm. She is 68cm tall so bless her trying to lay side ways or where she tosses and turns in her sleep. Because of this we brought her a brand new cot bed. It's bigger at 70cm by 140cm also the height off the bars are taller. Where she now stands up the old cot bars are at her chest meaning we are so scared that she will start to pull up and tumble out of her cot. So now with the new one hopefully it is taller and won't have to worry about her falling Not to mention it has a sloth on it, ariyah loves sloths so glad my likes have rubbed off onto her. She cuddles her sloth teddies and will staree at the wall stickers. So she getting more of a sloth rainbow theme now, streaming away from jungle.
On the plus side now lockdown is easing we have been able to go out abit more and have been able to start seeing friends and family. This has been amazing to be able to finally see people instead of over facetime. It was werid tho, the first person to come round without social distancing was our best friend Shannon. It was very weird to hug someone again other then Ben or ariyah. As well as having someone else in our house because since we moved in 4 month ago no one has been allowed over. We then saw Ben's cousin and the kids. Our friend Sarah as well as Imogen my old school friend had also popped over. We had also seen some family and friends in London.
Despite this being great to see people again it was weird and hard to watch ariyah reactions. Ariyah took ages to get used to people. She would cry, due to
getting very overwhelmed at first. So people had to go at her pace, letting her go to them. It did not take to long for her to start being okay with others holding her. I found it weird myself hugging people after so long or anxious being out so no wonder how she felt being held and around other people when she has only known it to be just us. She will be seeing more family this week, getting her first hugs off her grandparents after 4 months.
I have gone into work for a few days for training and meeting staff/pupils that will be in my class in September. It was very werid again being on a train and traveling since lockdown began in March. But it was also nice to be around new people, getting to know the school and just being back to some normality. At the same time it was horrible being away from Ben and Ariyah for the first time. Other then trips to doctors or shops we had not been apart, lockdown in the house 24/7. So very werid being without them. I'm looking forward to going back don't get me wrong and for lockdown to end so we can get back to normal. We can take ariyah swimming to the park ect... But at the same time I have loved being at home watching our daughter grow, not missing her first. To be able to do up our new house and spend time with Ben. So it's a catch 22. But it did mean that we got tested for covid 19, which all ccome back negative yay. We do not have the virus currently.
Ariyah-mai's milstones
There has not really been many millstone this month as I said before she seems to skip a month where she taking it all in then suddenly the next month she suddenly does loads
She has been talking so much more, making all sorts of sounds but also making out some words. She has yes, no, more, dad/dada, hi hello, hiya, ariyah, the random one off is, bye, run, trys to say cats/ there names. There is lots of times she says things we say like she is coping and learning to talk more each day. When she screams or pull the cats we always say oh gone. Telling her if she not gentle they run away. Today the cat ran away from her as she pull his fur. I definitely heard the words 'oh gone' even Ben heard and he was in the other room. There been others that we can't be sure but she is coping and chatting more each day. She is also starting to sign alittle, she signed yes for a while and now says it along side the sign so we know the sign was intentional, then she will sign more has signs milk a few times as well.
Other then chatting and laughing none stop she is always just all over the place, she can crawl very fast now, pulls herself up on everything and cruises all around the furniture. Meaning she gets up to things she should not be doing, so we had to rearrange some stuff. She can stand without holding on for a lot longer. She also very good a getting herself back down, as she carefully lowers herself back down. Hardly ever falling noow, as. She catches herself and is very stable getting up, down and around things. Sshee will even hold on with just one hand, bend to pick something up from the floor before pushing to stand back up straights still only with onne hand. Furthermore she is now started to climb so will climb the sofa, manages to get up the little step in he kitchen and in the landing. She attemps the stairs but not quiet there yet.
We all thought that by 9 months she be walking, with how early she was standing stepping and cruising however now she can crawl (very fast too) she is not as keen to walk. She can get to what she wants and stands up all independently. Whereby to walk she knows she needs help. She take a few random steps before falling where she let go of the sofa steped twice and fell but no really walking yet. She walks holding just one hand or as I said around furniture. With her first step walk now she runs, hardly bearing her weight on it, so I truly think it's all confidence. We are still hold her and encouraging her to walk, where she will step between us, taking a step or two before falling into one of our arms. But honestly we encourage her to crawl more, keep her crawling a bit longer because she gets to enough stuff as it is. Therefore we have more time to prepare, move things and make it very safe. So she older and can understand danger more.
It's getting hard with this virus and not being able to go out too much, although things have eased and we been able to see people, there still no baby clubs, swimming, parks or soft play open these are all the things ariyah really needs. She such an active and curious baby so trying to keep her busy with the same old toys is hard. She is bored, we are bored, so any ideas to do with a 9 month old who had a short attention span, puts everything in her month and just climbs please comment with ideas.
Other things that are small but still millstone is that she now completely self feeding, we put little bits on her tray or give her the spoon. She won't let us do it, getting so independent. This means she practicing and getting very goot at her pinch grips. This is where the index and thumb is used to pick up small objects. We give her tiny bits of fruit or pasta so she can grab them and managing to get majority of it in her month. Before she tried but kept dropping it. Her chewing and eating is much better being able to handle lumper and bigger pieces of food. She also uses pinch grips with her toys and started to be able to press buttons with purpose. Again before she just bang and accident press them, now it is accurate. She understands cause and effect that if she pushes or pull something she can make it work, like her pop up toy. If we hid a toy or stack a toy she will lift something or push the tower down laughing. She puts the balls on her ball drop and the rings on her toys. Photos of them below for reference.
She is getting very good at telling us whats she wants, like looking or reaching for things she wants. She has picked toys up, especially bubbles and gives them to us to play with her. She loves knocking things over, playing peekaboo and being tiggled. She very rough and tumble kinda girl.
Another really sweet thing she doing now is dancing. Any music on she waves her arms around and wiggles. If she is on her hands and knees or standing she shakes her bum. We have a google dots which she know where it is, she will crawl over to where it is on the desk, while shouting and dancing for us to put music on. This is so sweet and I'm glad as a dancer myself that she got such good rhymes and loves music. She has always liked music, it's always something that settles her but now we dance around laughing together too.
Most of the day other then her teeth or her little tantrums she laughs and is such a happy baby. She getting a very funny sence of humour, as she laughs at naughtiness, so knocking something over, if I pretend to steal her toy. If we just mess around and be cheeky (slap stick humour) meanwhile she has been throwing what seem like tantrums, she will shout, and kick her legs screaming when we are trying to get her changed, whilst she wants to roll and crawl away. Or if we not quick enough to give her food she has had little meltdowns. Other reasons where she very persistent is when she getting something she is not allowed like climbing on tables, pulling lead/plugs we can't hid, or just general things she can't have. Putting hands in cat foood or water too. No matter how much we move things, move her away telling her no. She will keep going for it, she is very studdon. We try distracting her with toys and she is not interested, thus will throw herself backwards and cry because she don't get what she wants.
But I'm sure ones she starts understanding more she will calm down, all we can do is keep moving her away, telling her no and distracting her. We have been ignoring her when she screams and she stops because she knows she not getting her way, but when she gets really upset we cuddle and calm her then explain. While yes she is young we beleeive even just calming her and explain why, despite her being young it will help her understanding, as she takes some of it in. Therefore being able learn quicker and not hurt herself.
She is also trying to clap, she will bring her hands together and will clap our hands. She enjoys anything messy, or noise, including banging things together. Also has a weird fascination with ears, our ears and the ears on her teddies. She will play with them. Also she is getting into books. More so the that's not my collection. Where she can touch and feel them. We have quiet a few of them now but the unicorn if her favourite. She remembers where to feel even without us showing her or reading, she will sit turning the pages and touching the senssory bits.
Things we manage to do/wean off, additionally to her new cot, we manage to get ride of the gro-bag that she would not sleep without. Even in 30 degree heat wave we had a few weeks ago. Then also her music from the baby monitor that we had to have playing constantly, has now been dropped in her naps. She still needs it on at night to settle as it helps sooth her back to sleep during the night. But during the day is a start then we will work on turning it off during night. She dropped her milk intake down which she seemed to do herself and is actually napping better since all this. However still waking at night and early in the morning. Dummies went ages ago can't remember if I state that in previous post but she was about 7 months and just decided one day she didn't want it, and has not had it since. We did offer it a few times if she got really upset but she was not interest. We are very pleased with this as Dummies are bad for there teeth what with her having 8 and more coming. Then soon hopefully her reflux settles and we can all get some sleep again.
Cant wait to see what summer brings, being about to get out more, enjoy the sun and see more people. For ariyah to build those bonds with her loved ones as well as other children. For things to get back to normal, where we can take her baby clubs eventually. So here to more milstones, tears, laughter and fun. Let's see what the next month brings.
Few picture of our daughter showing her loved of food and humour.
(Written in July 2020)
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